Let's go back to basics here. I have some stiffer springs from Beninca Motors (Australia) and judging from the pictures I have of my car trackside at previous events, the 'squat' you mention is still there, although not as pronounced as when it was equipped with stock springs.
You can't avoid weight transfer. The goal that you seem to have is to quicken the transfer of energy to the ground rather than compressing the spring, which is a noble goal. Guess what, you will still expend the same amount of energy compressing whatever spring you have back there, soft or stiff. The amount of squat will differ due to the spring rates but you'll still "waste" some energy compressing them.
Can't be helped, my friend

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Now - going to your point #3, which is to reduce the "silliness" in the way the car looks at full acceleration ... adding said stiffer springs will help that in a Milano. But here is where you run into the aesthetics of the car. Ever seen a Porsche 993 or 996 at full throttle? Yes, the rear end squats but it doesn't look bad.
Now take a 1985 Toyota Cressida (with the 6 cylinder for more oomph) and launch that sucker with a brake stand. The front end lifts so high up it looks positively startled! The Milano, under acceleration, while not bad-looking as a Cressida, is not bad-azz looking like the Porsche. I personally don't have a problem with it as long as I get ahead of that E30 M3 next to me.
When you've OWNED him, he ain't gonna come back to you and say "dude, your car looks ridiculous as it blew my doors off." Trust me
